If it’s hard it may be NORMAL, but that’s never NATURAL I like to make a distinction between what I consider *normal* and what I consider *natural*. To me *normal* is a human calibrated value or bandwidth within which it is expected and assumed most people fall. Some of the vast range of human […]
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You know, I could get worked up or at least more than mildly irritated when I hear people put off their happiness until one or other condition they’ve set is fulfilled. I could, but I don’t because I don’t believe in putting off my happiness. I don’t believe in waiting for certain conditions to be
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I was having afternoon tea (well actually it was coffee, a long espresso, to be exact) with 4 year-old Molly and her mother, Susan (not their ‘real’ names). Molly was colouring while talking to me in between my conversation with her mum. “So, you’re going to have a sleepover at Daddy’s, are you?” I
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Image from Here We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come. Joseph Campbell Letting go. It’s something that we hear so frequently and because it’s two words
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Reaching a point where I was unbearably unhappy Realizing that my unhappiness was having an undesirable effect on others Realizing that I had a choice – that my life could be different Seeing other people having a much better time than I was Realizing that it was my thinking, my beliefs, my attitude, my judgments
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As a child, I knew when I had upset my mum or dad. In the case of my father, I would get beaten, cursed at in some of the most obscene language which, fortunately for me, I did not understand at the time, and/or made to kneel with my arms outstretched for what seemed like
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Namaste – the Greatness of God within me greets and honours the Greatness of God within you (Image from here) It is the day after Nelson Madiba Mandela’s memorial service at the Football National Stadium in Johannesburg. I watched it all on TV last night. I did not want to miss a moment.
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The mind is everything. You become what you think. Buddha Who are you? We all know the *right* answers: I’m spirit having a human experience I’m God’s creation I’m a manifestation of Love… But I’m asking you, How do you really think about yourself? Because how you really think about yourself, is, as the
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I know it’s immediately obvious to you the absurdity of fighting a shadow. And yet, that’s what we do in life. Let me explain. Have you ever felt the need to overcome your *laziness*, your *inertia*, your *lack of motivation”, your *guilt*, your *anger*, your *fear*, your *forgetfulness*, your *procrastination*…? And yes, that is exactly
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True freedom is impossible without a mind made free by discipline – Mortimer J Adler There was a time when the word ‘discipline’ evoked resistance in me. For one thing, i believed it inhibited my creativity and cramped my style. Besides, my lack of it led me to believe that I was deficient, lacking will power
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